Have you ever heard of an ear-worm? An ear-worm (or a brain worm) is when a song is stuck in your head and you can’t get rid of it. This could be an entire song or part of a song that continues to repeat over and over. Like “Baby Shark”.
Anyways, the only way to really get rid of an ear-worm is by replacing it with a different song or preoccupy your mind with different thoughts by watching a movie, completing a puzzle, or chatting with a friend.
Can We Just Talk?
I bring this up because I think all of us have a song that we sing over ourselves that we can’t seem to replace. The ear-worm I have goes something like this: “Brooke, you are too much. Your personality is abrasive. You’re too loud. You don’t know how to relax. You overwhelm people. You are overbearing. You obsess over what people think. You rub people the wrong way. You will never get what you desire with the personality you have. You are intimidating. You are the reason things go wrong in relationships.”
Yikes! Sounds so harsh. By the way, I would NEVER say these comments about anyone else, but for some reason this is the record that plays in my head the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep at night. This song starts off loud in the morning… then when my day is full of work and distractions, it grows faint, but it is still there. Kind of like when you’re shopping and the store has faint background music you can quietly hum to. The more I sing the song over myself, the more familiar I am with it. To be honest it sucks.
Side note, whenever I have a legit song stuck in my head, I often sing it out loud or tell the nearest person “You know what song is stuck in my head”? Then I tell them.
The song we sing in our heads about ourselves follows this notion as well. I pretty much announce my insecurities and almost beg people to agree with them… ☹
Maybe it is just me, but when I believe lies about myself, I let that influence my relationships and how I interact with people. I preface most texts and conversations with, “if not no worries” or “you can say no” because I am afraid that my presence is too much. I would rather reject myself first than have someone else do it and validate my insecurities. WHY??? Why do I give people permission to perpetuate the lies that Christ worked so hard on the cross to replace?
No matter how many times someone reminds me that I am a child of God or I am who He says I am… I struggle. And then when people tell me to ask Him who He says that I am, I wonder if He has a unique name or song for me.
I wish there was a step by step process on how to rid yourself of the explicit content in your head that permits you to believe lies about yourself. I think one way we can combat these lies about ourselves is by focusing on what is ahead instead of letting the past define us.
The Lyrics in the Letter
In the letter to the church at Philippi, written by a guy named Paul around 60-62 AD, reminds us what we should be filling our minds with.
“My goal is to know Him and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of his sufferings, being conformed to his death, assuming that I will somehow reach the resurrection from among the dead. Not that I have already reached the goal or am already perfect, but I make every effort to take hold of it because I also have been taken hold of by Christ Jesus… Forgetting what is behind and reaching forward to what is ahead, I pursue as my goal the prize promised by God’s heavenly call in Christ Jesus. Therefore, let all of us who are mature think this way. And if you think differently about anything, God will reveal this also to you. In any case, we should live up to whatever truth we have attained”
This passage is found in Philippians 3:10-16, right before the famous passages of not being anxious about anything (Phil. 4:6-7).
When I read the passage above, I do not initially think of my ear-worm problem. But when I circle back to how songs are introduced into our thoughts; I reconsider how I read this passage. My self-deprecating thoughts that I replay in my head do not reflect that I have been taken hold of by Christ (vs. 12). They reflect that I have been taken hold of by my fears, past rejections, recent failures, and misconceptions of the realities in my life. I am challenged to forget the song I have been replaying in my head and replace it with the goal of Christ’s call on my life.
I love verse 15 as well, “Let all of us who are mature think this way”. This maturity is not due to age, it is due to a mindset. In order to be mature and whole in our thinking, we must forget what is behind us and reach for what is ahead. What is ahead? Christ ruling and reigning on this earth in fellowship with His people. In the meantime, God will reveal to us the thoughts He has towards us and His call on our life (vs. 15). While we wait for Him to reveal more of Himself to us, we should overwhelm our lives with the truth He has already shown us (vs.16).
A New Song
It’s a process my friends, but in order to stamp out the explicit lyrics that we sing over ourselves, we must replace it with a new song. In the same letter, Paul closes out with this challenge:
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any moral excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy, think (dwell) on these things.” (Phil. 4:8)
“The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
“But now thus says the Lord, he who created you, O Jacob, he who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine.” Isaiah 43:1
“Listen to me, O coastlands, and give attention, you peoples from afar. The Lord called me from the womb, from the body of my mother he named my name.” Isaiah 49:1
Let’s replace the songs in our heads with a new song. We can start by replaying these.
Song of the Day: https://youtu.be/k5w7MgTgVVs